I don't know if I shared much in the last couple months about our "process". Our adoption caseworker called us last month and wanted to have a meeting to discuss our progress and see if we want to continue. She was feeling like we wouldn't have any luck in the Committee process.
When the children are chosen for our household (and a few other households) it then goes to Committee. Basically before a judge our caseworker has to plead our case as to why we would be the best choice of all the families. Our Caseworker feels that that is where we would have the problem.
It seems that I would be the primary caregiver. Even though Dan works from home, they don't consider him to be available for the children. Understandable....but.....if I am the primary caregiver and on morphine.....that doesn't seem to go over well with the committee process. Our caseworker says that the laws have gotten really tough lately (in the past month or so) and even smoker families are frowned upon. The non-smoker/non-morphine families are more likely to be chosen.
I cannot decide if that bothers me. I think it is wonderful that they are being picky about who they are entrusting these children to. But I cannot help but think that they are ruling out good people who would make great parents.
We have decided to continue with the adoption. But with the understanding that it could take us much longer than originally anticipated to have children placed. If at all. We could go to committee five hundred times and never be chosen.
The home study is complete.....now we get to look at profiles and start to choose which children we want to go to committee for. I think this will be the most difficult of all the tasks. It will be difficult to not get our hopes up when we find a child or family that we will want to go to committee for...........and possibly not get chosen.
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Wow, good luck. Sorry for the road-block. It's really unfortuate. You guys would make great parents.
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